In all these years, I really didn't know how to do that. I didn't know how to stop remembering something stupid or wrong I'd done . . . I figured everyone had regrets and probably everyone handles them in their own way, but I needed a better way. I was truly tired of regretting so many failed relationships, in which there is no reparation. Even without the option of going back in time, most of these failed relationships could not be rectified in future settings either, and that's where the reality of release began . . . Carrying regrets does two things. It weighs us down and prevents us from rising to the full potential Abba has for us and it sets us up to live with blame in new relationships.
First, I cannot reconcile any previous marriage, as that is forbidden in Torah, so to continue to regret my failure, is time and energy squandered. The only way to view those now, is to hope and pray those men are happy and have a relationship with our Heavenly Father. I know some of them have moved on to other relationships and I hope those women do not have to "pay" for any hurt I caused the men. I know I've "payed" for someone else's old baggage and I would not wish that on an enemy. It could be the old baggage I've been dealt; was the consequences and comeuppance of my past behavior.
There is a meme that circulates social media regularly that sums life up rather well. I'll include the quote here, with the credited author.