A Real Woman

We hear so much about what a real man is expected to do, but what is expected in our society from "a real woman."  In many ways our society has missed entirely, what it is to be "real!"

Here is the perspective of a peculiar princess as to what it is to be a real woman.  A real woman is not idle. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.  She is clean and usually neat, dressed efficiently and appropriately, although not necessarily trendy.  A real woman is confident without being controlling.  A real woman displays self-control, usually . . .

A real woman is not defined by others, but rather seeks the definition of YHWH.  A real woman doesn't define her man, either.  Many women, it seems, and I know there are deniers across the board, but many women explain proper roles of the household to their men.  If a woman tells a man how the household is supposed to run and what his responsibility is, she's the head of the household.  I know I've been in the situation in which, I've heard myself saying, "The man does ________ , I'm supposed to be the helpmeet."  I can tell you from experience, that doesn't work . . . at least not well.  If the roles are determined by the woman, the relationship order is still out of order.

A real woman offers comfort without enabling, nurtures without mollycoddling, and offers honest encouragement, not false praise or harsh criticism.  A real woman can manage a budget and that task is often deferred to her.  The reality is, the man is often the primary breadwinner, and the woman most often more aware of household expenses.  Proverbs 31:10 says it this way, and I do believe this pertains to household financial management.  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

A real woman knows she would be disappointed in herself, if vanity superseded character.  A real woman desires to walk in virtue and integrity.  A real woman also knows, she doesn't always get it right!

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears YHWH, she shall be praised.